The Crossroads
Standing on the precipice of such a big decision can be daunting. Feelings of sadness, guilt, fear and anger are normal now, especially if your spouse is unaware of the extent of your unhappiness or you feel unsupported. You are not alone. There are hundreds of thousands of people feeling stuck in matrimonial confusion. No matter how difficult the circumstances you face, there is a solution.
Whatever your reason for coming to this place or how long you’ve been unhappy and unfulfilled, you are reading this book because you need some guidance in your decision-making process.
The primary goal of this book is to help you sort out your emotions and assist you through the maze of confusion and grief you will undoubtedly experience. By the end of the last chapter, I hope that, with the roadmap provided here, you will have a clearer sense of what direction to take regarding your marriage.
Sessions
Individuals or Couples
Susan works with individuals and couples who are at some stage in the marital indecision cycle by helping them gain clarity on their marital situation. Utilizing the “Workability Factors” that she developed in writing, Contemplating Divorce, Susan guides clients to a place of better understanding of their relationship dynamics and needs.
Susan is available to meet in-person or by phone for those who live in other parts of the country.
Groups
Group is a powerful mode of not only gaining clarity on the relationship, but also on coming out of isolation by sharing, learning from the experience of others, letting support in and becoming empowered by creating community.
Susan has a number of different times and days when her groups meet.
Book
The book, Contemplating Divorce, A Step-by-Step Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go, was a San Francisco Chronicle best-seller soon after its release.
By reading Contemplating Divorce, A Step-by-Step Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go, you will:
1. See that what you are experiencing is quite common
2. Feel less alone
3. Know what options exist for you at this crossroads
4. Understand how to manage your emotions
5. Have a greater understanding of your relationship
6. Learn helpful tools to work on your marriage
7. Understand your needs as well as the needs of others
8. Gain clarity and find your truth
9. Know if, how and when to take action
10. Make peace with your decision
Through a series of written exercises as well as reading the stories of others, you will come away with a much greater understanding of what decision you need to make with your marriage.
Here is some reader feedback ~
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen, Bowen Island, British Columbia, Canada
“an amazing book…” September 18, 2009
“Contemplating Divorce – [is] an amazing book, and belongs on the shelf of even happily married couples! [Pease Gadoua] discusses how to rebuild marriages in practical ways.”
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Douglas C. Lord - Library Journal
“This is an excellent resource with a consistently respectful tone…” September 8, 2009
Instructive real-life examples show the dynamics of deteriorating marriages with both happy and unhappy endings. Gadoua also explains the difference between staying in a bad marriage out of fear vs. confidently leaving it with expectations of future happiness.
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***** 5 stars
A must read for anyone who wants to work on their marriage. June 3, 2009
This book is fantastic, and was instrumental in parting the clouds for me during one of the most difficult times of my life - determining whether my marriage was salvagable or not. The exercises in this book are very helpful in assessing the work that needs to be done on a marriage, and in determining whether that work can be done by the two of you or not. I highly recommend this book whether you are contemplating divorce or not.
By JST (CA United States)
For more reader feedback, or to leave a comment, please visit: www.ContemplatingDivorce.com
Quiz
Susan developed a "Workability Quiz" for clients to get a sense of whether their marriage is workable and if so, how workable it is. This is just one of the tools that Susan developed while writing, Contemplating Divorce, that helps clients gain clarity on their marital situation.
This tool is not meant to stand alone and those taking this quiz should seek professional support before ultimately making a decision about the outcome of the marriage.
To take the quiz click here.
Workshops/Events
Through the Transition Institute of Marin, Susan holds workshops and events in Marin County (just north of San Francisco) throughout the year geared toward those who are either contemplating divorce, who are divorcing and even those who are post divorce (these events are called, Post-Part Him events).
Susan also conducts public speaking and trainings for therapists on the subjects of marriage and divorce.
To view the calendar of events click here.
