Not Sure You’re in the Right Marriage?
If you regularly contemplate leaving your marriage (even just once a month), pay attention to those thoughts. Relationship issues don’t usually go away on their own and if you’ve done everything you can think of to improve things, with no change, it may be time to exit. But standing on the precipice of such a big decision can be daunting.
Regardless of why or how long you’ve been unhappy and unfulfilled, getting professional guidance can help you in your decision-making process.
The primary goal of my work is to assist you in sorting out your emotions and to find a way through the maze of confusion and grief you may experience. You no longer have to suffer through this process alone.
How To Know When It’s Time To End it
One week things might be fine; the next, you don’t know what you ever saw in your spouse in the first place. This is part of what you may experience when your marriage is on the rocks.
Because divorce is one of the biggest transitions anyone will face in a lifetime, it’s important to be as sure as possible that it’s the only option for you.
I developed the “Marriage Workability Factors” to guide clients in understanding whether they have a relationship that is salvageable.
Navigating the Divorce Process
Divorce is scary. Its effects are far-reaching. Your future, as well as your children’s future, is at stake.
At a time when you are least able to, you are being asked to make some of the weightiest decisions of your life; decisions that may have repercussions for the rest of your life.
This is not the time to be too proud to ask for help. In fact, you will want the best resources you can get now. Having a divorce team with a good lawyer or mediator(s), financial experts (for help with budgets, taxes and investing), a therapist, a real estate professional and, in some cases, a vocational professional, will help guide you through the maze of legalities and decisions.
When you have more information about what to expect, you are less afraid, you waste less time, money and energy, and you feel more empowered. I’m dedicated to supporting people get on the other side of divorce.
Feeling Stuck in Post-Divorce blues?
The divorce process begins well before papers are filed and well after the decree is signed by a judge. Divorce entails grief, which is an emotional process that is over when it's over (not when you think it should be).
It’s not uncommon for people to feel stuck in their healing process following a difficult divorce. I have helped dozens of men and women recover, get on the other side of their grief, and go on to lead fulfilling lives.
Getting additional support and guidance to push through the end of this painful time is a really smart thing to do. You will heal eventually even if you don't reach out, but life is short. Ask yourself whether you want to continue feeling sad, mad and overall bad over the end of your marriage, or whether you want to begin the next chapter of your life as soon as possible.
Conflict with anyone is a drag. Especially when you're at odds with a person whom you used to love and who had presumably been your best friend. It just makes everything in your life harder.
Thankfully, just as marriage has evolved, divorce has as well, and now there are a variety of dissolution modalities to choose from. One of these is called, Integrative Mediation (I.M.).
It's more or less a hybrid between the single mediator model and the collaborative process. It enables couples to get additional emotional support through the entire divorce process while keeping the cost manageable.